Ambiance

The namesake of a friend in Cebu’s Bar and Lounge and also the character and atmosphere of a place, the title of this post is most appropriate. With respect to the atmosphere, I’ve done my best to acclimate myself to society within Cebu, yet I’m still “on the outside looking in.” Significant cultural differences act as obstacles to becoming part of the “in crowd.”

Ambiance Bar and Lounge performed a Soft Opening last night. On Christmas, I ran into John, whom I’d asked to become one of my mentors several months ago, and he invited me to attend the event. With expectations of only 25 attendees, more than 100 people attended. All concerned were thrilled with the event and I’m certain received some insights for improvements. I, too, received some valuable insights.

One of the women I met when I first arrived was there as well. I find her intimidatingly attractive and I’ve been reluctant to ask her out on a date. When John invited me to the event she was present but I was intimidated once more and didn’t ask her to attend the event together. I felt similar to how I felt in high school when I was uncertain and unsure about my ability to be found attractive by attractive women. Some lessons rear their ugly heads to be relearned at unexpected times.

Today, Sunday, December 29, 2019, I am grateful that:

I had a chance to attend an event in IT Park. I’ve only been there on one other occasion and after last night, I’ll definitely be returning on a more regular basis. It’s where most of the call centers are located and most of the middle and upper middle class work in the city. Great ambiance and tons of opportunities to meet women more inline(possibly) with what I’m looking for in a partner.

Crystal and I had a productive conversation. About an hour in length, she provided some insights and training regarding my area of research. She also provided some direction for research today and specifics on what to look for.

Discernment regarding Shay appeared this morning. I didn’t really know last night but upon reflection, a few things have become clear. I’ll take those lessons and implement some changes moving forward.

Be Great. Be Grateful.