Be More Firm

This morning I was summoned to appear in a mediation hearing. It was more of an inconvenience than anything, but it was still inconvenient. I had to appear as the result of renting my condo from a guy who’s going through a messy separation with his spouse. She’s insisting on taking all of his belongings, including my current residence. I’ve spoken with her a couple of times and unfortunately, my typical “nice to everyone” demeanor is not sufficient. I have to be more firm when it comes to her.

At the hearing I spoke only when required. I volunteered no information. I sat quietly, listening intently, and observing those present. It was interesting to see how things work here. It was a different kind of experience and aside from the meeting time, I found it informative.

My investigation had determined nothing could be determined at this level. She is seeking remedy through the judicial system, which from my research will take years, if ever. I’ll be more firm, offer no information unless required, and when appropriate, I’ll submit my information. It’s lawful and legal. I probably would have given it, if asked, but at this point, I’m no longer willing to be accommodating. I refuse to be a doormat. Should she desire the information, she and her attorney will have to follow the processes set forth in their law. I will not assist in their efforts. I’m not required to and so I won’t.

My behavior today is atypical, yet necessary. I’ll probably have to exhibit this behavior more in the future so this is as good of a training ground as any. I may as well get comfortable being firm.

Today, Tuesday, December 6, 2022, I am grateful that:

I said a prayer Mike taught me more than a decade ago this morning. When I entered the building, things went well. This prayer never fails. I’m glad I remembered it this morning.

I kept my calm and didn’t volunteer any information during the mediation. I have a tendency, at times, to show or tell what I know. This morning I didn’t need to do that and I didn’t.

I’m making some progress. Things are improving. I’m nor close to my final destination, but I can see the sojourn unfolding each day. It’s great to see things manifest as envisioned.

Are you too soft?

Do people mistake your kindness for weakness? Your softness for something other than you being kind?

How do you become more firm?

Be Great. Be Grateful!!!