General or Specific

Saturday night I had the chance to hang with the fellas again. They get together every week, but I choose to only hang out every other week. In that way I don’t run the risk of getting bored or taking the time we have together for granted. For me it’s a welcome reprieve and the camaraderie is truly beneficial.

While together a conversation emerged and one of the guys was being generic. He was addressing the needs of another one of the guys, but speaking at him and not to him. His suggestions were all generic and didn’t really add much value or specificity to the person in need. As he was the host of the gathering, I felt it impolite to correct him, but I did share on the subject.

I asked a few specific questions and after hearing the responses, I offered some specific action steps. The gentleman in need of assistance was too busy waiting for his chance to talk and to validate himself and his situation, I’m not entirely sure he was able to hear my message.

When delivering my experience in a group or individually, I typically parse my words. My experiences have been profound. I’m aware most are unable to receive the message I deliver and it’s my responsibility to make the message more palpable. I have a responsibility to master this aspect of my existence, for then and only then, will I be able to radically impact those listening.

Today, Monday, September 19, 2022, I am grateful that:

I got a chance to watch football this morning. It’s something I enjoy. Starting work a little late a couple days a week is a small price to pay for the ability to have a small taste of America.

Nick and Ryan are ok. Yesterday I got a call from Shirley informing me that their place was on fire. I headed there as fast as I could. Not entirely sure what started the fire, but so many people lost everything within their residences. Nick and his son were fine. Most of their things were water damaged, but the second floor of their house is completely lost. It’s worse than when the typhoon hit last December. I am happy I was able to be present for a friend when he needed me to be.

I was able to hang out with the fellas on Saturday night. It’s good food and fellowship and I’m happy we get a chance to spend some time together, listening to classic songs from our youth and reminiscing.

Sherman and I had an engaging dialogue on the way home. He gave me a ride back to my place and we both suggested the wrong way mistakenly. Our commute was lessened by meaningful conversation and I’m happy to know him a bit more now.

Can you impart your wisdom in a meaningful way?

How do you let those close to you know how much they mean to you?

When given the chance, how do you encourage others?

Do you share specific or general information when it comes to assisting others? Meaning, can and do you share your experiences and not your opinion?

Be Great. Be Grateful!!!