Making Things Right

There are several people I’ve met and had casual conversations with over the year that I’ve been living here. One person, Shy, works at one of the local eateries. Typically always accommodating and friendly her attitude had changed over the last few weeks.

Quite certain if something had changed it was a result of my behavior when I saw her yesterday I asked. Embarrassed and humbled I apologized and explained I didn’t know how I’d offended her but wanted to make things right. She was shocked. One of the many facets of the Asian culture deals with losing facing and preserving the face of others(respect).

We spoke and although she said I totally misunderstood, I tend to believe she responded the way she did in an effort to preserve my respect. I live with mistakes and when I become aware of them, I promptly make an attempt to correct those errors and clear away any misgivings. I work to change my behavior, apologize for behaving in an unacceptable manner, and move forward with the knowledge that behaving that way in the future is no longer acceptable.

The point with Shy and most others here, as well as home, is when I make a mistake I’m willing to ask for forgiveness and move in a direction where we can have a more amicable relationship. I’ve got one more apology to make(by far the most challenging).

Today, Tuesday, December 17, 2019, I am grateful that:

I was willing to apologize. Her behavior had changed, of that I’m certain. It’s important for me to remember I’m a guest here and sometimes my behavior maybe offensive, even when unintentional.

Diana and I had a great conversation last night. We hadn’t spoken in months and it was refreshing. Love that woman. She’s back home for a bit to get some things resolved before leaving for work once more. We had the opportunity to catch up and I’m happy we did.

Tommy and I had a chance to visit and have a candid conversation. I met him months ago and he’s been aloof but last night he confided with me about some of the challenges he’s been facing. I shared my experiences with nearly identical situations and hopefully offered some encouragement and insight. Without a concerted effort to change, what he’s currently facing will be nearly impossible to overcome(it was for me) but I was able to offer some hope. A glimmer of light in the seemingly impermeable darkness that’s depression.

Be Great. Be Grateful.