One Way Relationships

One of the things I’m most proud of is my ability to form and maintain relationships. Whether personal or professional, I do a reasonable job with my relationships. Some of my oldest relationships started more than three decades ago while in high school. Others are much more recent, but with every one, I do my best to contribute. I do this as it’s part of who I am, but at some point I’m aware I may require the talents of some or all in my relationships.

Earlier this week one of my more recent relationships was tested. I was in need of the person’s abilities. When I presented my problem, they eagerly listened. I explained that from my limited experience I estimated their work would last less than an hour and they quickly agreed. Next they went on to discuss their billing and my rates. I explained I was asking for a favor and wasn’t able to pay for an hour of their time and expertise.

I was offended that they asked to be compensated for their work. I was offended that during the same conversation this person had the audacity to ask me for a favor. They wanted continued access to my network. They wanted me to continue to send business to them, but were not willing to reciprocate in the smallest manner. That’s definitely a one way relationship.

I do my best to create or facilitate win/win/win scenarios. Whenever possible I work to ensure all connected in an endeavor reap fruitful gains. What I discovered earlier this week is something I’ve known for years and had to be reminded of once more. Not everyone thinks like I do.

Today, Friday, July 8, 2022, I am grateful that:

Herb and I had our weekly conversation. He was happy with my proposal for audiobook conversions. I answered some of his questions, but my internet connection was choppy last night so we’ll wrap things up over the next few days.

Two people confirmed my thoughts about one way relationships. They further explained to not invest when there’s little to no possibility of a return on my investment.

Things are moving forward with my production company. I’m seeing how things will be in very short order. I’ll work towards having patents in place before the end of 2022. I will be on a third or fourth iteration of audiobooks, while the remainder of the industry is still struggling to perfect and tweak the first generation.

I was able to laminate my eulogy. I’d written it years ago, while terribly depressed. Now it’s preserved and protected. I’ll scan it and upload it to my site in short order, probably today, but not sure if I want it in the public eye at the moment.

How do you evaluate the nature of your relationships?

Are you a giver and a taker?

How do you facilitate win/win/win scenarios?

Be Great. Be Grateful!!!