Uninvited

Like most humans, I want to be a part of. Whether it’s a club, professional organization, fraternity, or social club. After living here for over a year, I’d gotten the impression, and had the experience, that becoming part of social circles here is more challenging than in America.

I’ve been befriended by several Americans and we frequently have dinner together. Tuesday an interesting experience happened when I went to one of the restaurants I frequent to see several of those same friends show up afterwards to have dinner. I hadn’t been invited. Had that been the only occasion I would have thought nothing of it; however, it’s happened at least twice before.

My thoughts required a bit of clarity so I bounced the scenario past Steve. His suggestion was simple. “Keep doing what you’re doing and if it happens again, grab your food to go and tell the guys it was great to see you.” Another thing he said was, “Life’s too short.” I concur.

None of those guys pay my bills, dinner invitations are not a prerequisite of our friendship, and most importantly, I was whole and complete before we ever met. Therefore, should I continue to remain “uninvited” to dinners, my life will move forward and still be productive.

Today, Thursday, January 16, 2020, I am grateful that:

I went to bed earlier than normal and awoke early also. Peaceful rest, freshly brewed coffee, my favorite playlist over bluetooth speakers, and fingers on my keyboard have provided an excellent start to the day.

Steve and I had a conversation this morning. He’s a great sounding board and sometimes my reactions to situations are totally counterintuitive to someone like Steve who’s unaffected by the situation.

I didn’t take the situation before with dinner personally. In the past, I probably would have but there’s just no way for me to determine the reasons behind someone else’s decisions without asking them directly. Asking requires more effort than I’m willing to invest so I’ll let that deal go and move on accordingly.

How do you become a part of? Does your personality attract or repel?

Do you protect yourself from those that knowingly or unknowingly cause you harm?

Be Great. Be Grateful!!!