Non Assimilation

For nearly a year I’ve lived here in Cebu. I’ve done a relatively good job at meeting people and expanding my network yet I’ve not been welcomed with “open arms.” In my experience the Filipino culture is a “closed loop.” Friendly and hospitable(to a point) most I’ve met are quite inviting but with limits. When it comes to entering into the “inner circle” of locals I’ve had absolutely no success. Not one success could I tell as it’s not happened.

Furthermore, there’s an undercurrent of several things I’m not willing to actively or casually participate in. From the active bar scene to prostitution and infidelity to their chosen partners(spouse or designated live-in partner) there’s much to the culture I find unappealing.

My solution: Finish the tasks for which I decided to live here then leave. Every problem has a solution and I’m no longer willing to exert energy and resources in a failed attempt to assimilate into a society of which I have little desire to participate in.

Today, Monday, December 16, 2019, I am grateful that:

Communication costs are so low today as compared to years past. With VoIP I’m able to communicate for free with friends stateside as compared to when 20 or 30 years ago when those calls would have cost a small fortune. The de minimis charges allow me the luxury of speaking with those who’ve known me the longest and work towards maintaining those relationships even while thousands of miles away.

After a conversation with Grady earlier this morning, my current solution with regards to living here was confirmed. He suggested a similar course of action that I’d begun to take. He shared he’d experienced something similar while living in San Antonio and Houston and was quite aware of the challenges and told of his solution.

I’m beginning to see the completion of some of my writing projects. Between my writing and recruiting of illustrators for book covers, the next few months should prove fruitful.

Be Great. Be Grateful.