Out of Focus
Yesterday, technically early this morning, I had a conversation with a good buddy in New York City. This guy is incredible. It seems as if we've been traversing similar paths for about two years. It's a great feeling to know you're not the only person on your journey. We exchanged a couple of ideas and discussed options for the future. We also discussed character and willingness or commitment to obtain one's objectives. He's a insightful individual and I'm grateful for having met him. He shared that some people are committed but just to certain levels, whether 10, 20, 50, 70, or 100 percent. He explained how a bunch of people are aware of solutions to their problems but their level of commitment to the solution prohibits elimination of the problem.
When we have a solution but don't execute it effectively and fully, it's not the solution that's flawed, it's our execution. Our inability to effectively execute the solution is the problem, not the actual problem we're tackling. I've offered some solutions to another friend facing some situations I've already experienced and I offered my tactics for eliminating those situations. I provided some tools which worked incredibly well for me at the time but to no avail. It's been frustrating for me because I felt compelled to help. Now, I feel compelled to distance myself from the situation and the person. I can not afford to continue to relearn the same lessons. Every second I waste on relearning, remembering, and recalling past lessons is a second I don't have to learn something new.
Today, Friday, January 4, 2019, I am grateful that:
1. I am willing to do what I need to do to continue my journey. I have spent too much time on people, places, and things that are not a good investment of my time. When I spend I get nothing in return versus when an investment. An investment has a return, either a dividend or increase of initial outlay. I must get better selecting how I invest my resources.
2. I can distinguish when it's important to offer assistance and when my expertise isn't being followed when it's time to distance myself from that situation or person and not continue wasting my time. It's the 24 hours everyone has that's priceless. Me spending time with those who don't respect my time and experience by not following my suggestions are truly wasting my time and stealing my most precious asset. I have the choice of offering my experience, then walking away. I do not have to follow up and ask how things are working. I know how those suggestions worked for me and if whoever I shared those things with implement them, they will more than likely share how they worked for themselves. If not, in my mind, moving forward, it's no longer my concern. It's not a good investment of my resources and I have a purpose to fulfill and can no longer afford to deviate.
3. I take ownership of my situation. Yesterday my buddy explained how he admired my ability to accept responsibility for my situation. He said he'd noticed over the last year or so that I'd never blamed anyone else for my situation. I took ownership and accepted the consequences for my actions. I hadn't really put much thought into my actions
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